“Don’t hold together what must fall apart. The familiar life crumbles so the new life can begin.”
— Bryant McGill
A friend recently sent me that quote. I love it because it’s so hopeful. February and March are historically a very busy time for new divorce filings. In general, divorce attorneys see a lot of new clients in the first quarter of any year. While gyms fill up in the new year as well, it’s been my experience more folks follow through with resolutions to end their marriages, than with resolutions to get fit. A sorry commentary, superficially, but it can be hopeful or even positive when looked at in the light of the quote above.
There’s no such thing as a “perfect” marriage. There are good ones, bad ones, mediocre ones, and they’re all different at different times. Ending a marriage, even a bad marriage, is often a very hard decision.
Once you’re certain that you’re ready to start a new chapter in life, you need to recognize that a divorce is a marathon, not a sprint. It will take a long time even if you both agree, since there are a lot of ministerial things that must be done correctly. Hire the best attorney you can afford and get going, so your new life can begin!