Domestic Violence

Hi there,

I suppose I shouldn’t joke about this, but believe me, you will need to cultivate a black sense of humor to get through the divorce process.

Telling your spouse that you want a divorce is a deeply personal decision and everyone’s circumstances are different.  You may already be having fights where you both threaten divorce.  The “D” word may never have crossed your lips or your spouse’s mind, or your reality may fall anywhere in between these two extremes.  If there is any threat of violence this tip does not apply.

If you are the one planning the divorce and you have the luxury of time, use it.  Don’t telegraph what you are planning until you have your ducks in a row (see tips #1, #2 and #3 to get started).  I am in favor of doing this in the least hurtful, least threatening manner possible, simply because how you begin the process can often curse how the process goes forward.  It is far better to tell your spouse you are done while at a marriage counselor’s office, than to have him/her find out when served with divorce papers at work.

Of course, as in all … Keep reading

Hi there,

I have been on a cleaning frenzy (driven no doubt by the mess in my attic, which I discovered when looking for Christmas decorations) and so I have been also cleaning out my email – I save miscellaneous bits and pieces (both here and in my attic) and would like to share some of these in the hopes they may be useful.

First, and most seriously, one of my favorite bloggers, Donna Ferber, had an excellent post on the Ohio Family Law Blog with good advice for anyone seeking to separate from an abuser.  All divorce lawyers see these situations, and they are truly the saddest and scariest of all the cases we work on.

We are coming to the year’s end and tax season will soon be upon us.  Although we do not know what the tax rates will be next year (thank you Washington!), we do know for certain that alimony will continue to be deductible by the person who pays, and must be declared as income by the recipient.  TaxGirl, another favorite blogger of mine, had an excellent post a while back on this issue.

And finally, from one of the preeminent … Keep reading