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Your morning social media scrolling might get you into trouble.

An often-stated truth is that you shouldn’t access the email of others. Here, “others” means the person you have divorced, are now divorcing, or plan to divorce in the not too distant future. No matter how often this is said, it’s always worth repeating. Don’t snoop in other people’s email accounts!

Like most things, it’s more complicated than that. For instance, there are some minor exceptions, such as “authority to access.” Were you ever granted permission to access the email account? Was authority granted and later rescinded? If you’re even the slightest bit unsure of the answer to these important questions, then the answer is, of course, do not access the account!

However, what happens when this access to information is applied to all the information out there on the web? Is it possible that you could get in trouble for accessing someone’s social media accounts, if they have rescinded permission for you to do so?… Keep reading

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This doesn’t have to be your grandmother’s china…

Smartphones are everywhere, most working professionals have one. What you may not know is that during a divorce, you can use it as a handy tool to help protect your prized possessions from potential loss or destruction. Smartphones, including Androids and iPhones, have a camera. The video capabilities in your hand can be a valuable resource. We learned in a previous post that you must be very careful with video, so you don’t accidentally record speech without notice. But! The capability is on your phone and there are good reasons to use video for more than just capturing your spouse’s bad behavior.… Keep reading

password mobile security smartphone fingerprint scanningGenerally speaking, when you’re involved in marital conflict (divorce, separation, etc.), you should immediately change the password to your email, work computer, tablet and of course, your phone. We also discussed this  in The 7 Deadly (Tech) Sins of Divorce – Part 1 and The 7 Deadly (Tech) Sins of Divorce – Part 2.

Smartphones are everywhere, most people have one. The most common smartphones are either Android (from Google) or the iPhone (from Apple). My focus is the iPhone. I use ‘iPhone’, ‘phone’, and ‘smartphone’ interchangeably.

iPhones come pre-installed with a huge amount of technology (including apps) that anyone involved in family conflict (lawyers, friends, family and litigants) should be aware of. Today I’m talking about the technology preloaded on your phone, ready to use as soon as you take it out of the box. Software that has to be downloaded (whether free or paid) will be the subject of later articles that will link back to this one. I have an iPhone 6S (running iOS 9.2) but much of the information here applies to any iPhone as long as it runs iOS 8.0 or greater.… Keep reading

Look twice before you click send!
Look twice before you click send!

In my previous post, The 7 Deadly (Tech) Sins of Divorce – Part 1, we discussed the importance of protecting email accounts and passwords, not reading your spouse’s email and not recording anything without informing them. Here are the remaining four sins to avoid!

​4. Sharing Too Much on Social Media

I frequently remind clients not to put in writing or, God forbid, take a picture of anything they don’t want handed to the Judge in an open courtroom packed with interested listeners. The same rule holds true for social media. In a perfect world (we are talking about my perfect world here) a divorcing client would not involve themselves in any kind of social media sharing for the duration of the proceedings. They’d shut down their old accounts and they wouldn’t open new ones. However, we don’t live in a perfect world. People insist on keeping their Facebook accounts and posting to Instagram. If this is you, be very cautious. If you keep these accounts active, please do not denigrate your spouse. If it’s public information, the opposing attorney will find and use it against you.… Keep reading

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Such a simple tool capable of creating such great headaches for divorce cases.

For anyone involved in a divorce there are always pitfalls to be avoided, no matter where you are in the process. Some of the pitfalls are obvious, others less so. Today we’ll discuss the first three in a set of seven areas of technology to approach with caution. Apologies for the dramatic title.

1. Your Email Is Not Secure

Virtually everyone has an email address, either at home or at work, so nearly everyone will be impacted by many of the problems that can come from that. If you are divorcing and you have an email account, stop reading this post and go set up a new account. Then come back and finish reading. Create a new Gmail or Outlook account that you can use exclusively for personal communications such as those about your divorce, with your lawyer, questions for the accountant, etc. If you have an account you can’t get rid of, such as a work email or an AOL email you’ve had for 15 years, change the password right away.… Keep reading

Isn’t she lovely? She gets it from her mother.

Hi there,

A little over a year ago my daughter, Cici Van Tine joined us here as a partner. It has been a wonderful change and she is a terrific addition. As a proud mom I could happily write an entire blog post about how good she is and what fun it is to work with her… She is more tech savvy than I am, as ones’ children often are, and she worked in a tech crimes division as an Assistant District Attorney.

Our next couple of posts will be by Cici on the 7 Deadly (Tech) Sins of Divorce, enjoy!

Best,
Nancy… Keep reading

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Who knew Facebook could be good for more than sharing funny cat photos?

Hi there,

The internet is abuzz with news that a woman successfully served her soon-to-be-ex husband divorce papers via Facebook.

“Service of process,” also known as “serving divorce papers,” is one of those things that is extremely important but usually only interesting to lawyers. Its timing is important in Massachusetts because the length of the term of alimony is dependent on it. Otherwise and critically the purpose is to give the other side notice of the divorce. Fairness and due process require this. But in some cases, the other side is missing with no forwarding address or they are deliberately evading service.… Keep reading

Social Data and Divorce: What is Your Data Predicting?

Hi there,

This time of year there are always articles making their way around the internet about relationships and marriages.

Facebook keeps all kinds of statistics and can tell from posts where folks are in their relationships. It is fascinating to me that they can track when the relationship gets serious, and when it goes bad.

There was another interesting piece on how the “cost” of sex has lessened, and how that affects choices for men and women differently (shades of my grandmother).

The most interesting piece, though, was a rather lengthy New York Times opinion piece on how marriages have changed and how the differences affect what we expect of marriage.

Best,

Nancy… Keep reading