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Divorce Is Hard

Posted in Divorce Planning

Hi there, As the summer winds down and kids start back to school, a lot of folks decide to take their first real step in the divorce process. I routinely see a lot of people in August who haven’t decided what to do and need to know what will lie ahead of them legally before… Continue Reading

Start Your New Life!

Posted in Divorce Planning, Divorce Process

“Don’t hold together what must fall apart. The familiar life crumbles so the new life can begin.” — Bryant McGill Hi there, A friend recently sent me that quote. I love it because it’s so hopeful. February and March are historically a very busy time for new divorce filings. In general, divorce attorneys see a lot… Continue Reading

Holidays with a Narcissist

Posted in Divorce Planning

Hi there, ‘Tis the season for holiday parties, and it’s my belief that narcissists are overly prevalent at parties. Social gatherings provide a great opportunity for a narcissist to show off and shine. However, behind the scenes, narcissists aren’t so pretty. I’ve blogged about it before and not much has changed, although there does seem… Continue Reading

Another Tax Trap: Imputed Income and Health Insurance in Divorce Settlements, Part 1

Posted in Divorce Planning, Finances and Divorce

Hi there, April 15th is creeping up on us. I find doing my taxes while its snowing, AGAIN, a real insult. This week and next week’s post were written by my terrific colleagues, Ron Barriere and Jen Green. They highlight a tricky complexity in the new health insurance laws for divorcing couples. Best, Nancy Divorcing spouses have many… Continue Reading

New Year’s Resolution: Divorce?

Posted in Divorce Planning

Hi there, I believe that the above title rings true for lots of folks since we tend to evaluate our lives around New Year’s Day. And if your marriage is bad, divorce is a reasonable resolution. Most divorce lawyers will agree that the first few weeks of the new year are busy with new clients. I… Continue Reading

Tip# 5 of the Top 5 To-Do’s When You Want to Divorce: How to Tell Your Kids

Posted in Divorce Planning, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there, This is the most important — and may be the most difficult — thing you will have to do when you decide to divorce.  If you can (and emotional and logistic circumstances may prevent this), try to tell the kids about the divorce together.  Also, try to tell them as soon as possible.  Past the age… Continue Reading

Tip # 4 of the Top 5 To-Do’s When You Want to Divorce: How to Leave Your Lover

Posted in Divorce Planning, Domestic Violence

Hi there, I suppose I shouldn’t joke about this, but believe me, you will need to cultivate a black sense of humor to get through the divorce process. Telling your spouse that you want a divorce is a deeply personal decision and everyone’s circumstances are different.  You may already be having fights where you both threaten… Continue Reading

Tip # 3 of the Top 5 To-Do’s When You Want to Divorce: Finding and Getting the Most Out of Your Divorce Lawyer

Posted in Divorce Planning

Hi there, Now that you have made your decision and checked your financial picture, it’s time to get an attorney.  It is important to hire the best attorney you can afford.  If you are planning to divorce without an attorney, either by negotiating directly with your spouse or through a mediator, you should still hire an… Continue Reading

Tip #2 of the Top 5 To-Do’s When You Want to Divorce: Get a Handle on your Finances

Posted in Divorce Planning, Finances and Divorce

Hi there, This tip sounds simple, but many folks have ignored the finances of their marriage because their spouse is in control (and often controlling), or because they have not “needed” to become knowledgeable. If this has been you, right now, you NEED to find out as much as you can.  Where are your assets (i.e. retirement… Continue Reading

Unequal Justice

Posted in Divorce Planning, Finances and Divorce

Hi there, I spent all day yesterday in a very overcrowded Probate and Family Court (since all I do is divorce the only courts I go to are in the Probate and Family court system).  Massachusetts, like much of the rest of the nation, is in a budgetary crisis.  I realize this is true too of almost… Continue Reading

Telling the kids about divorce, and other stuff

Posted in Divorce Planning, Divorce Process, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there! In almost every divorce case involving children the parents worry about how to tell the kids.  Here is a very good road map on the do’s and dont’s of informing your children about your pending divorce. Not so critical, but also important, is just how to divide your personal property with your soon-to-be-ex.  Here… Continue Reading