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Adopting a Stepchild

Posted in Parenting, Children & Divorce

I am frequently asked by stepparents what is involved in adopting their spouse’s child. The process is often quite simple, and brings a sense of wholeness and belonging to the child and family. How does this all work? There are two instances where the adoption of a stepchild is considered uncontested and can move easily… Continue Reading

Paltrow Isn’t Divorcing, She’s “Conscious Uncoupling”

Posted in Alimony and Child Custody, Celebrity Gossip, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there, My clever coworker, Abigail Munafo, pointed out to me today that I have a category entitled “Celebrity Trash,” and I haven’t posted to it in a while. So, it was extremely timely to read that Gwyneth Paltrow is getting divorced from what’s his name. They chose to do it amicably, a good choice,… Continue Reading

How Are You Going to Pay for College?

Posted in Finances and Divorce, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Separated or divorced parents face unique challenges regarding the financial impact of preparing for and paying for their children to attend college. Luckily, there are ways to handle the situation without breaking the bank! Next week my firm is hosting a complimentary lunch event called College Smarts: Understand Your Options to Help Protect Your Family’s Financial Future,… Continue Reading

SJC Decision Regarding Parent Coordinators: What You Need to Know

Posted in Court Decisions, Parenting, Children & Divorce

I was in my office last week when I heard shrieks of joy coming from down the hall. (We really should have a bell or something we ring for a big win – this yelling is so unprofessional.) My colleagues Sue Stenger, Francine Gardikas, Laura Studen, Robin Lynch Nardone and Andrea Dunbar had just gotten the SJC decision on the… Continue Reading

The International Divorce and Hague Convention Maze

Posted in Alimony and Child Custody, Court Decisions, International Divorce and Parenting, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there, One of the most horrifying things to happen in a divorce is to have the other parent take your child, go to another country and refuse to return. The Hague Convention is the international law that governs this type of kidnapping. Not all countries are signatories to the Hague Convention. There are also vast differences… Continue Reading

In Divorce, Compromise is NOT a Dirty Word

Posted in Divorce Process, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there, While listening to the recent doom and gloom about the government shutdown, I was incredibly annoyed by the perception that everyone in elected office in Washington should have been forced to compromise by their own common sense. It also occurred to me that Washington is not unlike divorce court. Opposing sides, rigid positions, angry murmurs —… Continue Reading

Did you know? October is National Cyber Security Awareness Month

Posted in Divorce Process, Information Security, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there, Did you know that October is National Cyber Security Awareness Month? I hadn’t, although as a survivor I do know it is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. I am pretty conscious of how public the Internet is and how dangerous being online can get if you are in the process of divorcing.  I have… Continue Reading

Parental Alienation: Part 2

Posted in Divorce Process, Domestic Violence, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there, Parental alienation in the divorce process may be an unavoidable fact of life.  Bad situations can make good people behave in destructive ways, and, of course, not everyone pursuing divorce is a good person. As I started to discuss in my last post, there seems to me to be a dramatic increase in the number of divorce cases… Continue Reading

Parental Alienation: Part 1

Posted in Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there, Nomenclature doesn’t change facts, and whether you call a set of toxic behaviors “parental alienation” or “marginalizing a parent” doesn’t change the inherent tragedy. In a high conflict divorce case, parents can align the children so thoroughly that the children begin to be unable to have any kind of a relationship with the other parent. “Parental alienation”… Continue Reading

Tips to Protect Your Privacy When Separating – Part 2

Posted in Divorce Process, Finances and Divorce, Information Security, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there, In last week’s post I shared some tips to help protect your privacy when divorcing.  Following are a few more to consider. 1. Whether you move or stay, make sure that the post office has all the necessary address changes.  Also be sure to contact all the credit card companies, phone carriers, banks, etc. with your… Continue Reading

Transitions After Divorce

Posted in Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there, I once had a very socially adept client who sent out a “transitions” card to all her contacts.  She announced her separation, new address, phone numbers, etc.  She was cheerful, matter of fact and kind to her ex.  I thought at the time it was a great idea.  Today I am announcing a transition… Continue Reading