Many of you will end up being able to co-parent admirably, and this will include many of you who are struggling with the tough initial stages of working out a co-parenting arrangement. If no one is pathological, then time will generally settle things down.
In the meantime, here are some tips to keep things from blowing up:
1. Don’t sweat the small stuff. In a perfect world the kids would have the same experience in both homes. That is not going to happen. Don’t worry if things are different at both houses — different meals, different clothes, and yes, different bedtimes. These differences help make the children of divorce more resilient than their peers, and resilience is a very good thing! Do raise some issues; for instance, any surrounding inherently dangerous activities and food if there is a medical/allergic condition that the kids have. You should agree on those limits.
2. Don’t try to communicate in person or by phone if you or your spouse are still raw. Email and texting have truly made divorce parenting easier. You are both communicating and creating a record. Always be civil and polite. You can make faces at the … Keep reading