coparenting

back to school coparentingHi there,

Despite the oppressive heat, it’s almost back to school time again. By this point in the summer most parents are pretty ready for school to begin. One of the best ways to make the school year smoother for your kids is to plan ahead with your coparent! Firm up a schedule as much as you can before the school year begins. There are a variety of apps available that are useful to help divorced parents mutually handle their schedules.

Make sure to include the following on your mutual planning calendar:… Keep reading

Extreme gardening.
Extreme gardening.

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I hope you all had as good a Fourth of July weekend as I did! My weekend was filled with family, horses and some extreme gardening. Just coordinating the activities of an intact three-generation family is hard. It can seem insurmountable when you’re struggling to coparent post-divorce, especially during the summer when school is out. Summer camps, baseball, ballet, sailing lessons, time with both parents, how do you keep it all straight? Many conflicts can be avoided with the use of proper planning tools.… Keep reading

Apples

Apples
Between Apple and conscious uncoupling, I can’t decide which is more “creative.”

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My clever coworker, Abigail Munafo, pointed out to me today that I have a category entitled “Celebrity Trash,” and I haven’t posted to it in a while. So, it was extremely timely to read that Gwyneth Paltrow is getting divorced from what’s his name. They chose to do it amicably, a good choice, and called it “conscious uncoupling,” a peculiar choice. Coming from a couple who named their child after a fruit, it’s somehow not all that surprising.… Keep reading

National Cyber Security Awareness Month

Hi there,

National Cyber Security Awareness MonthDid you know that October is National Cyber Security Awareness Month? I hadn’t, although as a survivor I do know it is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

I am pretty conscious of how public the Internet is and how dangerous being online can get if you are in the process of divorcing.  I have also recently discovered that if you and your spouse share an iTunes account there is a real possibility that your messages can appear on his device. This means you need your own iTunes account when you start the divorce process.

We and all our children and grandchildren each have a cyber presence. I know that my grandkids all have a better working knowledge of the Internet than I do — I just learned what snapchat is.

In divorce the Internet can be a help as well as a minefield. There are multiple calendar options that make coparenting easier.  Cell phones mean you can be in touch with your kids in many more ways in real time regardless of where you are.

It also means that you and your coparent have an obligation to your kids to set a reasonable plan with limits … Keep reading