My first tip is very simple. Be SURE you want to divorce. If yours is not a situation involving physical violence, emotional violence, addiction or adultery (all of which, in my mind, almost always necessitate divorce), then you are making a choice. Don’t get me wrong, I think the ability and freedom to make this choice is an excellent thing — you just want to be certain that you are clear about it because divorce is pretty final and it is also pretty tough and expensive.
Over the 34 years I’ve been a divorce attorney, I have seen folks who clearly had made the right choice regarding divorce. I have run into these people, years later, and they are still glad they made the decision they did. Then there are those who made the decision without thinking it through, perhaps in a moment of anger when the grass looked greener. When I meet these people again years later, long after the divorce is done, they are the people who are often unhappy with the way their lives turned out.
To be certain you are making the right choice, I think it is a good idea to first … Keep reading