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I hope you all had a wonderful holiday, despite what may be trying circumstances. Throughout the year there were many changes and clarifications in basic divorce law that will affect the many of you that are planning to divorce in 2017. This period between Christmas and New Years is what I consider the calm before the storm, as January is generally a very busy month for divorce lawyers. This quiet week is the perfect opportunity to both reflect on the past and prepare for the future. Below is a list of blog posts that explain the recent changes to divorce law and what those changes mean for you.

As we say goodbye to 2016, I wish each of you a happy and healthy new year. See you in 2017!

2016 Changes and Clarifications to Divorce Law

Nancy… Keep reading

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I was somewhat surprised a couple of weeks ago to be asked for an interview by the talented Globe writer, Cindy Atoji Keene. It was published on Sunday, and reading it made me realize just how important it is to be able to let go of that “salad spinner” and focus on what’s truly important in the end game in a divorce.

There’s a salad spinner in every case — it could be the cat, the couch, or whether the kids come to visit at 5:30 or 6:30 p.m. Imagine fighting over a stuffed parrot, horse semen, or geese. These were all expensive court battles that I was involved in, and it all comes down to control.

I like to call it the Salad Spinner War, after one of my first cases that involved a short-term marriage with a wealthy Brahmin gentleman and his younger wife from abroad. We came to a fair division of assets and property, and because I was young and stupid, I agreed to go to the house to help divvy up miscellaneous items. We went through the antiques, oriental rugs, lamps, and furniture, and then came to the kitchen, where they started

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2015 / 2016
Out with the old, in with the new!

Hi there,

We’ve had an exciting year here at the Divorce Law Monitor! We’ve added new contributors, expanded readership and updated our look. We’re happy to announce that in 2016 we will debuting a new mobile-friendly layout, so you’ll be able to more easily access posts on the go! Before we head into 2016, below are this year’s five most highly sought-after topics. … Keep reading

Christmas presents beneath a Christmas tree

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Happy Thanksgiving! I hope you all have a safe and fun holiday.

Christmas presents beneath a Christmas tree
Presents for your kids can be under the tree in no time with a little coordination!

Even though Christmas décor has been up for weeks, I’m just beginning to coordinate Christmas shopping for my grandkids with their parents and their other grandparents. It’s an organizational hassle in an intact family, and far more complicated in a separated or divorced family. In past years I’ve posted about how to divide the holidays, and also about how to coordinate parenting time using apps like Google Calendar and My Family Wizard. … Keep reading

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I have been struggling to learn how to tweet (I can’t tell you how I shudder to use that word; my English teacher mother is rolling in her grave).  Despite my whining I am truly addicted to how much information you can get on Twitter, and keep getting on an ongoing basis.

From the hundreds of tweets out there everyday relating to divorce, I have selected below my Twelve Tweets of Twistmas….

  1. Divorce Research 2011: Top 11 Findings Of The Year (via @huffingtonpost)
  2. Divorce After 50: Why It’s More Complex (via @Dad’sDivorce)
  3. When Your Ex Goes Overboard at Christmas (via @huffingtonpost)
  4. Hulk Hogan Files Defamation Suit Against Ex Linda Bollea Over Autobiography Claims (via @foxnews)
  5. Three Holiday Divorce Mistakes to Avoid (via @Dad’sDivorce)
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