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back to school coparentingHi there,

Despite the oppressive heat, it’s almost back to school time again. By this point in the summer most parents are pretty ready for school to begin. One of the best ways to make the school year smoother for your kids is to plan ahead with your coparent! Firm up a schedule as much as you can before the school year begins. There are a variety of apps available that are useful to help divorced parents mutually handle their schedules.

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Hi there,

As a parent and grandparent I have long felt it was a necessary right of parents to swat their kids on the behind occasionally. Swift justice often makes the most impact.

I was somewhat astonished to open Lawyers Weekly today and discover that the Supreme Judicial Court agreed with me.

However, if you are in the midst of a contested parenting case, I recommend that you don’t spank your children, as it will be held against you. An effective alternative could be restricting the use of their iPhone or Nintendo, which is often a powerful consequence for kids!

Best,
Nancy

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Hi there,

One of the toughest things to watch as a divorce practitioner is parents putting kids in the middle of the parental war zone. Passing messages, engaging in passive aggressive behavior over visit times, and worst of all, letting kids see the divorce papers – the list of ways to hurt children is practically endless.  Parents who would never deliberately hurt their kids in the frenzy of the divorce put their children squarely in the middle. A colleague just sent me a terrific blog from Great Britain on how to handle children in a divorce.

Some parenting truths are universal.

Best,

Nancy

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Hello there,

I find this to be a very interesting topic that everyone has a different opinion about and as I wrote this I realized what I was writing was different from my usual posts, but what the hell?!

I am sure one of the more difficult issues faced by a parent contemplating divorce is the effect of the divorce on the kids. I see many folks who are uncertain as to whether or not to stay in a pretty untenable situation simply because they want their children to be older and they think more able to accept before they divorce.

Through years of watching families, reading and observing children of friends, I am not so sure that this is so. I actually think the younger the kids are when the divorce happens (assuming the parents are civil and flexible about parenting) the easier it is for the kids to adapt. A 2 year old has very little difficulty where a 13 year old is at a developmental point where this can be much harder. I also think that a child in college may be more vulnerable than one who is around and in high school. And oddly enough … Keep reading