I am pretty conscious of how public the Internet is and how dangerous being online can get if you are in the process of divorcing. I have also recently discovered that if you and your spouse share an iTunes account there is a real possibility that your messages can appear on his device. This means you need your own iTunes account when you start the divorce process.
We and all our children and grandchildren each have a cyber presence. I know that my grandkids all have a better working knowledge of the Internet than I do — I just learned what snapchat is.
In divorce the Internet can be a help as well as a minefield. There are multiple calendar options that make coparenting easier. Cell phones mean you can be in touch with your kids in many more ways in real time regardless of where you are.
It also means that you and your coparent have an obligation to your kids to set a reasonable plan with limits … Keep reading
In last week’s post I shared some tips to help protect your privacy when divorcing. Following are a few more to consider.
1. Whether you move or stay, make sure that the post office has all the necessary address changes. Also be sure to contact all the credit card companies, phone carriers, banks, etc. with your change of address. If you have concerns about the security of mail in a mailbox, get a PO Box.
2. You also need to recognize that your private home may not be so private. If you have kids, they may stumble across divorce information, or your spouse may come into the house to pick them up for a visit. Designate a spot to keep your divorce files (and you will be accumulating divorce files) — a locked filing cabinet may be the best choice. Never leave computers on with your email account open.
3. You will now be responsible for the protections that are in place for your kids when they are with you. This means you should have computer limitations set for all machines they may even remotely access. I was … Keep reading
For most folks the decision to separate is hard, and the reality of what separation means can be harder. One of the most important aspects of separating is privacy. Whether you stay in the marital home or get your own new home, among your first steps should be protecting your privacy. Following are the first of several tips I have for protecting your privacy when separating.
1. If you are staying in your home, change the locks as soon as your spouse moves out. Reprogram the alarm system (if you have one) to a new code. Also, contact your alarm company to make sure that they will not let your spouse reprogram it again. Get the garage door opener back and reprogram the garage code. Make sure that you have all the keys to the vehicles that you drive.
2. Immediately, if not sooner, change ALL your passwords. This applies to your email, any online shopping sites, any online business accounts, retirement accounts, bank accounts, credit cards, etc. Don’t forget to change the password to your smartphone or any other electronic devices. If you had not utilized the password function … Keep reading
I have always warned clients about how easy it may be for a disgruntled spouse to get into your email. Now it seems that you have to worry about your cell phone too. According to an article by Claud L. (“Tex”) McIver and Deepa Subramanian of Fisher & Phillips LLP published on the Law360 website, it is now possible to purchase software to illegally tap cell phones to listen to conversations at any time, and anywhere. The software is easily accessible via the net and can be installed in less than 10 minutes. Apparently it is advertised as a good way to catch a cheating spouse. This is of course, highly illegal, but a real threat. Apparently the best way to protect your cell would be to password protect it and not let it out of your possession. On the same idea, here is an interesting article about some other spyware used in divorce.
So as my not-so-sainted granny used to say, never write anything you wouldn’t want to see in print, and I guess that now goes for what you say too.
I write a blog, my daughter is going to show me how Facebook works and I have a bunch of friends who tweet on twitter. This is really an Internet universe – or as some call it, a ‘blogosphere’ or ‘twitterverse’. And in the Internet universe there may be fewer than six degrees of separation. There is a tendency to think that one’s personal communications on the Internet are private, but as this Timearticle shows, they are not.
If you are in a divorce or contemplating one, be careful of what you say on Facebook or on any of the other social media sites. There is no advantage to chatting about your divorce and how awful the other side is in public and there is a real risk that they may see what you have written. This may hurt your case, give ammunition to the other side, and could clue them in to what your strategy is.
You would think this would go without saying, but do not show up on a dating site until AFTER you have separated. Dating sites are not private. Divorce attorneys are very aware of the pitfalls of our very open … Keep reading