social media and divorce

Look twice before you click send!
Look twice before you click send!

In my previous post, The 7 Deadly (Tech) Sins of Divorce – Part 1, we discussed the importance of protecting email accounts and passwords, not reading your spouse’s email and not recording anything without informing them. Here are the remaining four sins to avoid!

​4. Sharing Too Much on Social Media

I frequently remind clients not to put in writing or, God forbid, take a picture of anything they don’t want handed to the Judge in an open courtroom packed with interested listeners. The same rule holds true for social media. In a perfect world (we are talking about my perfect world here) a divorcing client would not involve themselves in any kind of social media sharing for the duration of the proceedings. They’d shut down their old accounts and they wouldn’t open new ones. However, we don’t live in a perfect world. People insist on keeping their Facebook accounts and posting to Instagram. If this is you, be very cautious. If you keep these accounts active, please do not denigrate your spouse. If it’s public information, the opposing attorney will find and use it against you.… Keep reading

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I have blogged before about the terrific resource social media is for divorce lawyers.  Today, sitting in a courtroom waiting for my case to be called I saw a case that, ironically, highlighted this very importance.  Two pro se litigants (lawyer speak for folks in a court case without lawyers) were battling over whether a dad’s child support should continue for an 18 year old daughter.  Mom was arguing that the child was living at home and working on her GED degree; however, Dad had been trolling the Internet and had found Facebook and MySpace pages, as well as some other materials where the daughter was telling folks she was working as a “model and an exotic dancer.”  He even had pictures of her dancing on a pole (the Judge declined to review the pole picture, wise man), and her posts from those sites where she stated that she was earning $40,000 a year.  Dad had also found on craigslist that she was looking for an apartment out of state.… Keep reading